(Not so) FAQs

This is a handy list of some specific questions you may (or may not) have. You may also submit any other questions not addressed here through the Contact page, or check out my About page if you haven’t already.

Why did you start this blog?

Many suffering people in this world either do not have their own voice to speak for themselves, they are not allowed to use their voice, or their voice is not heard or taken seriously when they use it. I am in a privileged position in which I have a voice, I am allowed to use it, and it is often heard and considered. In many situations it is my responsibility to step aside and allow others to use my platform to speak for themselves and their communities. For the purposes of this blog, however, my responsibility is to use this platform to speak for others. I have chosen a blog as my platform because I love writing. It’s partly a matter of genuine desire to spread wisdom and honor the blessings and experiences God has granted me. It’s partly a matter of freedom and expression.

So you’re a Christian?

Doctrinally, like 99.3%. Dogmatically, like 67%. Fundamentally, like 4%. I believe in the Judaeo-Christian God. I am a follower of Jesus Christ, and a believer in the Holy Spirit. I do not, consciously or unconsciously, think the Fruits of the Spirit include manipulation, patriotism, or capitalism, and I have no interest in being associated with those who do. I realize such an association specifically pertains to white, evangelical, American Christians, not the global Church as a whole. However, seeing as that is the predominant group in my context, that is the brand of Christianity I am most compelled to address.

What does your domain mean?

“For the Sake of Fire” is what I thought was a poetic reference to the Holy Spirit, as well as the way pain and healing have been so heavily used to make me into the person I am today, and how I have found my calling and purpose in using my experiences to help others.

What experiences are those?

Unfortunate burdens: generational alcoholism and abuse; various mental health issues like depression and PTSD; spiritual, emotional, and sexual abuses and traumas; bullying; loss of close loved ones; and rejections.

Wonderful blessings: radical therapies and interventions that saved my life; perseverance and encouragement from countless others; access to incredible education and knowledge; a deeper love than I ever thought possible; instantaneous healing; gradual healing; a warm, inspiring, life-breathing community of friends and family; the whimsy and majesty of nature; and intimacy with the omniscient, omnipotent, cheeky God that created, out-poured, and IS Love.

How can you be both a feminist and a Christian?

It’s pretty easy, actually. There is ample scriptural evidence to support feminism, I am a follower of the greatest liberator of the oppressed in existence, and I don’t particularly care whether or not sexists label me a heretic or deceiver. Call me a heretic. Please.

You sound bitter.

Maybe a little. But at least I’m not a Jezebel. 😉

Got any heroes?

Brigid of Kildare. She was one bad-a** 5th century Irish abbess.

Why are you studying Marriage & Family Therapy?

I am called to the mission field, and marriage/family just so happens to be that field for me. These units can set the trajectory for the rest of an individual’s life, sometimes positively, sometimes not. In my particular context (south-east USA, the “Bible belt”), I have witnessed a high frequency of enmeshed family systems and emotional control, manipulation, and abuse as a result of sociocultural norms regarding familial hierarchies and boundaries. These norms, from my perspective and interpretation of both scripture and psychology, do not facilitate healthy relationships. I believe these relational units, when in their healthiest form, are meant to reflect the mutual indwelling modeled by the perichoresis of the Holy Trinity. MFTs utilize a theory and method of counseling that I believe best facilitates this.

Other career goals?

I plan to become a Certified Sex Educator and edu-ma-cate the heck out of public-school pubescents, home-school weirdos, sheltered church-goers, nervous parents, and adults who still haven’t gotten their sex-uneducated acts together.

Why sex education?

Because who doesn’t like sharing STIs? I mean…sharing about STIs.

What’s the YouCaring link in your menu?

I have shamelessly created a fundraiser to raise money for graduate school. Ultimately, I recognize I have been blessed beyond measure by God in numerous ways, and I have far more material and economic comfort and security than the vast majority of the world. However, I have several financial limitations that make it extremely difficult to pay for tuition, and am hoping some kind strangers could help out. More details can be found by clicking on the link.

Favorite hobby?

Destroying the patriarchy.

Ok, 2nd favorite hobby?

Talking about destroying the patriarchy.

Is there anything you like to do not related to destroying the patriarchy?

Reading, hiking, writing, walking aimlessly, petting stray cats, cutting my split ends, talking…a lot, singing white-girl soul music, liturgy, watching my weirdly wonderful friends watch anime, drop-bear attacks, and organizing other people’s belongings. We all need some silliness in our lives, right?

Have any pets?

Not yet, but I am fully committed to having 2-11 cats, a mini donkey named Stanley Jr., and possibly a goat. I’ll probably have a dog at some point so extroverts don’t think I’m heartless.

What’s with the dinosaur picture?

It’s just a cute thing between my boyfriend and I. Like I said, we all need some silliness in our lives.

So you have a boyfriend. How did that happen?

It was a really simple process, actually. I just took a brick wall + Aldo Leopold + black coffee + a millennial Charles Dickens + 2 tree trunks + a Christian Shawn Spencer + 3 brook trout + a white, politically amotivated Obama + some encapsulated bee pollen + Ian Somerhalder’s backup mandible, combined them all in the Hiwassee River, brought the river to a simmer on a breezy April afternoon, and let cook until slightly pink and gentlemanly (stirring occasionally). The finished product was a 5’11” biologist with a sweet, crooked smile, unquenchable love for the outdoors, and a penchant for deep thoughts and random affection. How could I not eat that up?

Any cool randoms to finish this off?

I once lived in the wilderness for 76 days. I have conducted and presented experimental research and in the process of publishing (fingers crossed). I can name every nation in the world and 84 elements of the periodic table. Those skills are yet to be of use to me. I can bake cake inside an eggshell. Also yet to be of use to me. I have never had braces and still have my wisdom teeth (I’m a full-grown adult, y’all).